tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961806026324038710.post5963351896791695870..comments2023-02-15T12:33:31.771+00:00Comments on Leaving the Grey Room: Nursery "provided an ideal environment" for woman's child abuse"Malcolmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16750431202226062206noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961806026324038710.post-20498400025868747832010-11-04T22:52:09.881+00:002010-11-04T22:52:09.881+00:00Hi and thanks for the comment. I'll start at t...Hi and thanks for the comment. I'll start at the end because you ask an important question. Yes I <i>definitely</i> consider neglect to be a form of abuse. What is important is that people understand neglect isn't just failing to attend to a child's physical needs. Overlooking obvious signs of dysfunction (bed wetting, depression, anger problems etc)are all neglect and, given my personal experience very much within the scope of this blog.<br /><br />Now, a bookshelf. While I'm very keen to find helpful resources of all sorts, books or websites or whatever, I'm fairly leery of fiction (although I have read some excellent novels on the subject). I really feel that the purpose of this blog needs to stay very firmly with fact. Would you be prepared to précis a couple of your best recommendations for us?<br /><br />I'll definitely have a look at the website you suggest.<br /><br />All the best<br />MalcolmMalcolmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16750431202226062206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-961806026324038710.post-66590403934295355442010-11-04T17:55:27.374+00:002010-11-04T17:55:27.374+00:00This is something of an aisde, but the idea came t...This is something of an aisde, but the idea came to me while reading above post. How about a little bookshelf in the sidebar directing seekers to good reads about this topic, perhaps divided into fiction and non-fiction.<br /><br />For the non-fiction shelf I'd recommend Alice Miller's <i>For Your Own Good</i> and <i>The Drama of the Gifted Child</i> and Kenneth M. Adams' <i>Silently seduced: When parents make their children partners</i>.<br /><br />For a fiction shelf I would very much recommend Matty Lee's <i>35 cents</i> and of course Scott Heim's <i>Mysterious Skin</i> and <i>We Disappear</i>; perhaps also Stephen Chbosky's <i>The Perks of Being a Wallflower</i>, which I liked a lot less than e.g. Heim, still, it fits the bill. JT Leroy's <i>The Heart Is Deceitful Above All Things</i> probably doesn't need to be mentioned. And although I am a HUGE fan of Iain Banks' <i>The Wasp Factory</i> it's maybe a matter of opinion if it would be placed correctly in this context.<br /><br />I dunno if you also maybe want to include a link list, but if so, you might want to look at <a href="http://eqi.org/eabuse1.htm" rel="nofollow">this website</a> about emotional abuse. It appears to be quite useful, though I have not read everything on it yet, so caveat browseur. ;)<br /><br />And I have a question: Do you consider neglect a form of abuse as you define the term for this site?<br /><br />Anyway, keep up the good work.FreeFoxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00096319447345952569noreply@blogger.com